Saying It, Living It

It’s all about balance,” “everything in moderation,” and “you only live once!” are phrases that I’ve found myself saying to my coworkers recently. I even went so far as to tell a friend “I don’t perpetuate negative body talk.” I couldn’t believe that came out of my mouth!

Later, I wasn’t sure if I was proud of myself for addressing the pattern I had been seeing, or embarrassed that I sounded self-righteous.

I’ve come a long way in achieving balance in my diet & exercise. I’m still not where I want to be. So it’s not always easy for me to be in an environment that upsets the balance (even unintentionally).

Sometimes people’s conversations at work can be difficult for me. I overhear people lamenting the junk food they ate, pining over the cookies in the kitchen, or discussing their latest diets.

Even if they have the best of intentions, the nature of these conversations can upset me. I start comparing and analyzing what I’m doing as compared to what others are doing.

comparison

Most of the time, I try and tune these conversations out. There’s no sense comparing or competing, because everyone’s situation is different. But when I do chime in, I try and add positive encouragement, like “It’s all about balance!”

Now, the hard part is internal: saying it vs. truly living it.

Your Turn-

  • How do you deal with others’ negative body talk, or missed-the-mark diet advice?
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8 thoughts on “Saying It, Living It

  1. This is a tough one! The professional in me always, of course, wants to talk about it on a very personal level with an individual talking about shame and eating, or workout guilt or just putting themselves down. On the other hand, the survivor in me always wants to be super empathetic, but also share too much with others that maybe they don’t want to hear about. Truthfully, I find, the best thing you can do for yourself and that person (or people) talking that way or making negative statements is to just remove yourself from the conversation. I always feel like, if you’re not talking it out — or offering your two cents or “preaching” as some might say — then you’re enabling it and becoming part of the conversation.
    Like I said, it’s tough. I think the one thing we can all take from these conversations is an evaluation on how we feel about it. How does that make us feel, and if it does bother us, why? So that then we recognize ourselves when we fall into that pattern. Wow, do you need oxygen after reading this comment? lol Great post — you’ve got us all thinking lately! 🙂

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  2. I completely understand. It really is hard to LIVE what we say/preach no matter how hard we actually believe in it. I’m guilty of occasionally falling into a “woe is me” trap when my friends talk badly about themselves/bodies/life. It really does take some conscious action and thinking to contribute a positive comment, but I like to think those comments might help change someone’s mindset.

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  3. OMG YES! I have the same issue. I’m pretty comfortable with how I live my life and my beliefs and trying to live and preach (without being preachy) balance and self-love so it’s SO difficult for me to listen to negative body image talk or conversations about “eating bad.” I don’t know when to tune out or speak up. Glad I’m not the only one.

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  4. I can completely relate to this post – its tough to figure out what works for you when there is so much outside influence! What works for my colleagues in terms of balance/wellness doesn’t always work for me, but while I’m still figuring out my own balance it’s hard to not jump on their bandwagon.

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